5 Things I've Learned About Splitting Holidays Between Families | Enduring All Things

Friday, December 4, 2015

5 Things I've Learned About Splitting Holidays Between Families

Pearson's entire extended family at Thanksgiving last week.
All the cousins on my dad's side of the family at Christmas last year. (Yes, I wore the same sweater last week on Thanksgiving in the first picture... Oops)
A panoramic picture of everyone at my Nana's in Arkansas at Thanksgiving last year.
I love being married. And I especially love being married during the holidays. But one of the hardest things that I've experienced in our marriage so far is splitting up holiday time between families. I am a people-pleaser so this sort of thing has always been a big problem for me, but I'm sure most of the problem is simply in my head.

Actually, I've gotten a lot better. I used to stress out about this a lot more than I do now because I've learned a few things that make it less stressful these days. So I thought I'd share what I've learned...
  • It's not worth getting worked up about. I used to dread splitting time up so much that I didn't even enjoy the holidays. I was just too stressed. But it's so not worth that!
  • Your families still love you no matter what. Some people might get their feelings hurt, but they still love you and deep down they understand, trust me.
  • They most likely don't care as much as you're imagining them to. Really, my mom and my mother-in-law are both pretty easy going and I know (rationally) that they don't care near as much as I always imagine them to.
  • Just be as fair as possible and forget the rest. You can only do so much. And, like I said earlier, your family should understand.
  • All that really matters is that you're with people who love you and they know you love them too. Am I right?
This year, we spent Thanksgiving with Pearson's extended family at his Grandma's house. We're going to spend a couple days, the weekend before Christmas, with my brother in Birmingham. Then we'll spend a few days, up through Christmas Eve, with Pearson's family. Then Christmas day we'll go to my parents' house and spend Christmas with my extended family an Georgia. Then, the day after Christmas, we'll go with my parents to my Grandma's house in Arkansas.

It's going to be a lot of driving, but we don't mind! One day we'll live closer to our families.

Where are you spending the Holidays?
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