Take a good long look at your priorities. Make a list of all the activities you do in a day. Keep track of things that take up your time. If your spouse isn't taking up time, he's not a priority. But he should be! Rewrite your list in order of what you want to be a priority and then start living that way. It always helps me to write stuff out.
- ONE || It's not a priority
In order to be able to spend quality time together, you have to tell each other what you have going on in each of your lives. You need to talk about your expectations for the next day or week and decide who will take care of what responsibilities and what tasks can be done another time so that you can free up time for each other.
- TWO || You don't communicate your expectations
It may seem unnecessary, but scheduling quality time with your spouse can help so much! Write everything you have to get done in your planner and include date nights and quality time. But be sure to write it in PEN! Don't treat time with your spouse like an appointment that can be moved around. It should arguably be the most important thing on your calendar.
- THREE || You don't put it in your schedule
Sometimes, we care more about our "friends" (or followers) inside our phone than we do about our spouses. I know you're probably thinking "No I don't! That's ridiculous!" But think about it, do your actions reflect that? When he gets home from work, put down the phone and greet him. Give him your undivided attention while he tells you about his day. When you take her out do dinner, leave your phone in the car. Show her that she's more important.
- FOUR || You're too connected
Some couples struggle with spending time together because they don't enjoy the same activities. Find things you both enjoy. Try something he enjoys that you've never done. Or you could both do something completely new. You might enjoy it! You could also help with each other's work. Even if it's a tedious task, at least you're together. I've been known to sit beside Pearson while he grades papers and I'll enter those grades into the computer as he works through them.
- FIVE || You have separate interests
You guys, it's so important to not neglect your marriage. I know sometimes you're busy and it's easy for your marriage to take a back seat, but don't let it! If you value your spouse and your marriage (and I hope you do) then make quality time a priority. It might not be your primary love language, but I think it's a great way to reconnect and show your love!
Thanks for reading!