So I didn't want to leave you on this Wednesday without a post about marriage because I promised at the beginning of the year that I would try to blog about marriage on Wednesdays. So I've come up with sort of a fun little post for today...
Why it bothers me: There's nothing wrong with saying "Yes, Dear" when you agree or maybe when it's more important to you to not start a fight. But the connotation behind this phrase is that the wife is always right and the sooner the husband realized and accepts that, the better. No! I am not always right. I know that. I am human. I am imperfect. Oftentimes my husband has a great idea or his opinion on a subject is so much better than mine. He shouldn't have to say "Yes, Dear" to everything I say just because it's expected in our marriage.
Replace it with: "I understand what you're saying, but can you listen to my side too?"
Quote: "Happy Wife, Happy Life"
Why it bothers me: Yes, I think this is true. If you have a happy wife, it will be easier to live a happy life (as opposed to being married to a grump or something). But it's not all about the wife. The husband's happiness is important too!
Replace it with: "Focus on making each other happy and you will be happy too!"
Quote: "Marriage is a three-ring circus: Engagement ring, wedding ring, and suffering"
Why it bothers me: Ugh. These types of sayings are why people go into marriage assuming it will fail. And to whoever said this: There's no way your entire marriage is complete suffering. If it is, you should do something about that! Fix it!
Replace it with: "Marriage is a three-ring circus: Engagement ring, wedding ring, and enduring"
Quote: "Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right, and the other is the husband."
Why it bothers me: See the first one.
Replace it with: "Marriage is a relationship in which two different people compromise when they disagree"
Quote: Mr. Right, Mrs. Always Right
Why it bothers me: See the first one again.
Replace it with: Mr. Right-for-me, Mrs. Right-for-me
So what do you think? Do you agree with me that these quotes need to go? What would you add to my list?
Thanks for reading!