Enduring All Things: August 2016

Wednesday, August 31, 2016

Is My Marriage Broken?

I read this article the other day and I wondered if my marriage was broken. In that post, Missy Robertson shares a story of her father telling her that she wouldn't be able to come back home to live after getting married. When she was frustrated with her husband, she still has to go home to him. She can't go stay with her parents. Then Missy went on to say that there were times during the beginning of her marriage when she wished she were back in the comforts of her parents house.
As I read this, I wondered what was wrong with me. Why do I never wish I was back with my parents? Do me and Pearson just not fight? Do we happen to get along perfectly? Do we simply repress things and avoid confrontation? Is it because Pearson is never home long enough to do anything to make me that mad?

And then I realized a couple things. One, Missy Robertson is not perfect. Why am I assuming that if my marriage doesn't look like hers, it's broken? Sure she's a great role model. I admire her marriage, her family, her values, and her voice. And her advice in this post may be just what some people need to hear. But it doesn't really apply to me. And that's okay.

Another thing I realized is that Pearson and I do disagree at times. We get on each other's nerves. We have our share of problems. But I've never once thought of going and living with my parents because that was never an option. I just think it never really had to be explicitly told to me.

I don't know if that's because I was ready to leave my parents house asap and I hit the ground running when I turned 18 and then again when I got married at 22. Or maybe it's because when we got married we moved 600 miles away from my parents and going back was just not physically possible. But I think the real reason is because I belong to Pearson now and he belongs to me. We don't belong to our parents in the same sense anymore.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24 ESV
So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate. Matthew 19:5 ESV
Pearson and I are one now. We are joined together and there's no other option.

One thing Missy said though that really resonated with me was that God knew life wouldn't be easy and therefore marriage wouldn't always be easy, but that he gave us marriage so we would not have to be alone.
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Genesis 2:18 ESV
I think that's really cool. I'm one with Pearson. Forever. I can't go back to my parents. And I'm cool with that.

Do you ever want to go home to your parents and get away from your spouse? Or does that thought never cross your mind like me?
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Tuesday, August 30, 2016

Book Review: The Girl on the Train

You've all probably heard of the book, The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins (aff). It's been made into a movie coming out in October. You know how when a book gets made into a movie, it suddenly gets really popular? Yeah that happened with this book. That's why I was surprised to see a brand new copy at the local thrift store for $2.99.
I had been wanting to read the book before I saw the movie and I had heard great things about it. But I was really in no hurry to read or watch it. I would wait till the movie had been out a while, rent the book, and then rent the movie.

But then Anna of annaelizabethevents.com announced The Girl on the Train as the #BabesWhoBookClub book for August and I thought "Why not?" Wow. I couldn't put it down. And now I can't wait for the movie!

Now, you should know that the format is different from most books I've read. It's written in first person but it's almost like a diary entry. And the "chapters" switch between three women's points of view. You get a name, day of week, date, and time of day (early morning, morning, afternoon, evening). This got a little confusing for a bit at the beginning. Especially because one point of view was the present and another started back about a year ago. I found myself having to flip back and remind myself what things happened on which dates. But I got so into the book that I really didn't mind that too much.

Now let me give you a fair warning, this book is not completely clean. It's not raunchy or anyting but there is some cussing and sex. Oh, and before I forget, it's written in Brittish English which I loved! (Babysitting = childminding, diaper = nappy, bathroom = loo, come over = come round, trunk = boot, to call = to ring, and lots of different spellings)
Now as you probably know, this book is a mystery. Someone goes missing and others try to figure out what happened. My opinion of who did it flip flopped back and forth the whole book until probably the last quarter of the book. I assumed it wouldn't be an obvious answer and I actually guessed the right person, but for the completely wrong reason. There was a really crazy twist at the end!

I highly recommend this book to anyone who likes mysteries or just realistic fiction in general. It was a quick read and completely engulfed me in the story!

Have you read The Girl on the Train? What did you think? Did you get the mystery right?
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Friday, August 26, 2016

#MyMarriageEndures on Instagram

Did you know that I started a hashtag on Instagram back in January? It's true, #MyMarriageEndures. I changed the focus of my blog at the beginning of the year. Or at least I tried to. I wanted to focus more on marriage so I changed the title to Enduring All Things and I started the hashtag.

Anyway, I haven't done a whole lot of promoting it so only a few of my friends have used it. Below are a few of my favorite posts from #MyMarriageEndures. Enjoy!
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Be sure to tag any and all marriage posts on Instagram with #MyMarriageEndures. Especially posts about enduring life together, working on your marriage, and and getting over obstacles etc.

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Thursday, August 25, 2016

Easy Weeknight Meal: Breakfast Tacos for Dinner

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Guys. Cooking dinner every night is hard. With my new job, I'm going into the office every day and talking to people and I'm tired when I get home. Not to mention I often don't have any idea when Pearson will be home and most nights, he's home pretty late. That right there kills my motivation to cook.

But guys, I've found the solution: Breakfast for Dinner. Now before you click away, this recipe is going to be a fun little twist, I promise!

I love having breakfast for dinner for many reasons!

One being that it's quick. I don't even have to think about it until Pearson is home from work and we're still usually going to eat dinner at a decent time.

Two, it's easy. I don't need to consult a cook book. I don't need to get all fancy. And yet, I can put my own variations on it if I want.

And three, it's condusive to multiple cooks. Pearson likes to help in the kitchen as much as possible and I enjoy cooking together, but it's usually just not very practical for whatever we're making. But with breakfast for dinner, one of us can easily make the pancakes while the other scrambles the eggs or vice versa.

And a bonus reason would be that it's delicious. I mean, everybody likes breakfast food, right?

So now that I have you convinced that breakfast for dinner is like the best idea ever, let me present...

Breakfast Tacos

Now those are two of my favorite words in the English language, so you know putting them together is going to be awesome!

Ingredients:

  • Hungry Jack® Pancake & Waffle Mix
  • Water
  • Eggs
  • Breakfast Sausage (or bacon or whatever meat you want)
  • Jif® Flavored Spread (I used Cinnamon flavored)
  • Hungry Jack® Syrup
  • Taco holders

Directions:

  1. Spray your griddle with non-stick spray and heat it up to ___degrees. OR heat a drizzle of olive oil in a non-stick skillet over meadium-high heat.
  2. Mix the Hungry Jack® Pancake & Waffle Mix with water using the ratios indicated on the back of the box. For me and Pearson I started with the 6-8 pancake ratio but aparently I make bigger pancakes than they expected so I ended up using that amount of batter twice for 5 pancakes.
  3. Pour enough batter out onto the griddle or skillet to make large enough pancakes to serve as taco shells.
  4. While the pancakes are cooking, scramble some eggs and cook your meat. Pearson did this step while I made the pancakes.
  5. Take a pancake and spread some yummy Jif® Flavored Spread on it.
  6. Slightly fold the pancake and place it in the taco holder
  7. Fill the pancake with meat and eggs. I put two sausage links down end to end and covered them with eggs.
  8. Pour the delicious Hungry Jack® Syrup over the whole thing. I like less syrup on my pancakes so I just used a line or two like putting mustard on a hotdog, but you could go crazy.
  9. Pick up the taco with your hands and enjoy. And don't worry about the mess. You can clean up later!
Oh my goodness were these tacos to die for! They were so much better than I expected! The Hungry Jack pancake mix was the kind where you just add water so it was super easy but it still provided delicious, hearty pancakes! I'm excited to try it as a waffle next time! The Jif Spread privides protein with delicious, natural flavors, no GMO, and no gluten! 

So basically, you can achieve a perfect, delicious, wholesome breakfast (or dinner, as it were) with Hungry Jack and Jif products. You can see these products demonstrated in Meijer stores on August 28th and September 4th. Also, right now Meijer has mPerks offers for all these great products: $0.75 off 1 Hungry Jack pancake & waffle mix, $0.75 off 1 Jif Flavored Spread, and $0.75 off 1 Hungry Jack syrup.
So tell me, do you enjoy breakfast for dinner? Are tacos one of your favorite foods on the planet (if not, we can't be friends)? Are you going to try these breakfast tacos for dinner?
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Thankful Thursday: Pearson

Alright guys, I haven't written about my wonderful husband for Thankful Thursday since January. I think it's safe to do so again this month without getting too sappy and annoying. Am I right? Actually, I don't care whether I am right on that or not. This is my blog, I blog about marriage, my husband is awesome, and I want to tell you about it!
If you've been following/reading my blog this year, you probably noticed that I published 20 posts in January and 21 in February. These numbers were on par with my monthly average from the end of last year. I was blogging a lot and I loved it. But then March hit. March and April are always difficult months for me. I always get a bad case of seasonal depression when it's still freezing and snowing outside and I haven't seen the sun in 6 months. So my number of posts in both March and April was like half of an average month.

But that trend continued into May and the beginning of June. I was more than just "seasonally" depressed. That's why I quit my job. I needed a change. I felt stuck and isolated in my job. It was bad for my mental health.

What does all this have to do with Pearson? Well, he supported me through the whole thing. There were times back in the spring when I know I was being unreasonable. Nothing brought me joy. I hated waking up every morning. I dreaded most of my life. But Pearson did what he could to help. I'm sure he was frustrated. I'm sure there were times when he didn't know what to do or say. But he never showed that to me.

He was patient. He was kind. He was everything that 1 Corinthians 13 lists. He reminded me of the good things. He constantly gave me compliments and lifted me up. He listened. He encouraged me to make changes. He encouraged me to find help. But he didn't push anything on me.

When I quit my job and started my new one, I thought that would help things. I thought I would magically get better and be happy again. But it turns out that wasn't just a magic fix. I'm much happier than I was, of course, but it didn't fix everything. Lately I've been feeling ugly, useless, and a bit nostalgic (as shown here and here).

But you know what? Pearson is there to support me again. He has his own problems. He's getting a PhD, for goodness sakes. But he puts mine first as much as he can. He's sacrificed so much for me. Just the other day he told me that if I'm really feeling this way about myself then we should work together to better ourselves. We made a plan to go grocery shopping that day, clean the apartment, and prep healthy meals for the week. It got done and I felt so much better about life. And it was fun to do those chores with him.

We're turning over a new leaf and we're doing it together. We're going to be more active together (especially now that it's getting cooler outside). We're going to keep each other accountable. We're going to meal prep together. We're going to keep the house clean. We never set real boundaries on chores in our house so we're going to do that and just be more intentional about everything.

So, all this to say, I am so very thankful for my husband. He's exactly what I need. I am so blessed.
What are you thankful for this month? Be sure to link up below and remember, it can be an old post as long as it's about gratitude in some way.

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Friday, August 19, 2016

Flashback Friday: Back to School Then and Now

Boy am I feeling nostalgic this week. I don't know what's going on. As I sort of mentioned yesterday, it's back to school time and I can't help but continue to reminisce about my school days and all the awesomeness that came with going back to school. I was the nerdy kid who loved going back even if I pretended that I didn't love it.

Has your family gone back yet? Does "back to school" affect you in your stage of life right now? I was almost quick to say that it doesn't affect us anymore, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized it does have an effect. So I thought I'd compare "back to school" from the old days to today.

What back-to-school looked like then:

  • An excuse to buy new clothes.
  • Me getting super excited about school supplies.
  • A new backpack every year.
  • Getting to see my friends again after summer break.
  • Meeting new teachers.
  • High school football games.
  • A normal routine again.
  • No more lazy days at the pool.
  • No more summer job.
My first day of Kindergarten

What back-to-school looks like now:

  • An excuse to buy new clothes because, why not?
  • Me getting super excited about school supplies because all the new stuff is all over the stores this time of year! But now, I limit myself.
  • Cold weather coming soon. Boo Ohio.
  • Football season starting soon.
  • Pearson has to TA again (teaching assistant) so he will be even busier than he has been.
  • The students come back to OSU campus so he has a hard time finding a parking spot.
  • Playing Pokemon Go on campus will be more difficult.
  • All the students will come back to church and we will be even more full on Sunday mornings. I don't know where we're going to put everybody.
  • Fighting school traffic on the way to work in the morning.
My first day of 3rd grade, my brother's first day of Kindergarten
Back to school season is far less exciting now than it used to be. Oh well. I'm going to make the most of it anyway.

How has your "back to school" season changed over the years?

P.S. Go check out my Back to School Round Up Post over on Love, Pasta, and a Toolbelt today!

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