Enduring All Things: October 2016

Thursday, October 27, 2016

Thankful Thursday: Friends (& a Hocking Hills Photo Dump)

Well guys, October is almost over. Did the month seem to go by really fast for anyone else? There just didn't seem to be enough time for everything I wanted to do. If I'm being honest, it's been a bit of a rough month. But I won't get into all that. I'm just looking forward to being busy and being with friends and family for pretty much every weekend the rest of the year.

Speaking of friends, that's what I'm thankful for today!
Last weekend, Pearson and I went to Hocking Hills and stayed in a cabin with several close friends. Eight adults, one toddler, and two babies all under one roof! It was a blast!

This coming weekend, a friend of ours from Harding who was in our wedding is coming to visit. He's interviewing for grad schools and it just works out that he'll be in the area for the weekend and needs a place to stay.

The weekend after that, Pearson will be away at a conference.

The weekend after that, I will be in Nashville with my bff, Ashley for a girls' weekend!

The weekend after that, Pearson and I are going back to Hocking Hills to stay in a cabin as just the two of us.

The weekend after that is Thanksgiving and we'll be in Harrison, Arkansas with my mom's side of the family.

Then comes December. December isn't quite as full as of right now. But, "A Fairy Tale Christmas Carol" runs on the second weekend (I'm playing Cinderella). This means that weekend will be super busy with 4 shows but also, that whole week leading up to the performances will be super crazy with dress rehearsals and tech stuff.

Also, you know, Christmas and New Years. We'll be in three different places in the Atlanta area, as well as Valdosta and Memphis during that week and a half.

So yes, we will be busy. But I am so excited. I've felt a little isolated lately. I think we've sort of isolated ourselves. Or at least I have. I've been depressed and a symptom of that is not every wanting to see anybody or do anything. But now I'm making myself do stuff and I'm actually looking forward to it!

Friends are the greatest. They are so important to our mental health and wellness. God created us humans as relational beings. We need to connect with others. We need to be needed. There's not much of a better feeling than knowing you have friends who have your back.

And it's so good to have fun sometimes, you know? All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, right? Friends help us do that.

So anyway, today for Thankful Thursday, I am so thankful for friends. Old friends. New friends. Lasting friends. Deep friends. All of them!

And now, a photo dump from our Hocking Hills trip!
The boys. And the babies. Can you see Elizabeth on Doug's back?
The Girls.
I had to add another of the boys and babies because Pearson's laughing face cracks me up. Pure joy!
Us inside the Rock House
What are you thankful for this month? Link up below!
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Wednesday, October 26, 2016

What "Boundaries in Marriage" is Really All About

Well guys, it's time for another collaboration with Amberly of A Prioritized Marriage. (You can see our previous monthly collaborations here, here, and here).
This month we decided to read a book and share our thoughts on our own blogs. We picked the book Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.
I honestly thought this book was all about setting up ridiculous boundaries outside your marriage like "I can't go to lunch with just one co-worker of the opposite sex" and I was skeptical of the book. Not that I think we should go out to lunch with one co-worker of the opposite sex all the time, but the thought of putting a hard and fast rule on it was not my cup of tea. Especially back when I wasn't working outside of the home and having that rule would just seem like me controlling Pearson's every move.

But that's not what the book was about at all. In fact, the first chapter explains that the book was written for the purpose of setting boundaries within the marriage so that one partner doesn't dominate the other. That I can certainly get on board with.
Setting personal boundaries means taking responsibility for your own feelings, thoughts, attitude, actions etc. Your spouse isn't causing you to be angry or to nag or lash out. Take responsibility.
The book goes on to talk about being free in God and how we don't have to be controlled by our spouse or anyone. Boundaries help us to know where our spouse's control begins and ends. "Just as your neighbor can't force you to paint your house purple [referring to a property boundaries analogy], neither can any other human being make you do anything." p. 24.

I think the word "boundaries" has a weird, negative connotation. As I read this first chapter, all I could picture was "putting boundaries on the controlling partner." But really the boundaries are on the marriage. The partner who is being controlled needs boundaries on his or her own reactions as well.

And really, we are not setting boundaries "on" another person. Boundaries are about ourselves. I can only control myself. I cannot control my spouse. So if my spouse is doing something I do not like, instead of saying "you cannot do that anymore" I can say "if you continue this behavior, I will do this" and follow through. Sometimes people need consequences in order to see their faults and be motivated to change.

On of my favorite analogies is that boundaries need to be permeable to keep the good in and the bad out. Like a door that you lock to keep out what's unwanted and you open to welcome in friends.

Also, there is an entire chapter about setting boundaries with yourself because we are the only ones we can control and we should remove the plank from our own eye first. Sure sometimes one spouse is more at fault than the other for an issue in marriage but usually the other spouse is contributing in some way whether they realize it or not. So we should take a step back and look at our own feelings and actions first.

Basically, "Boundaries" is a way of looking at your relationship and remembering that you are your own person. Your partner and the relationship don't own you. And yet, you have to become one with this person. You cannot get too comfortable and take each other for granted. Marriage is work and a lot of people (myself included until a few days ago) think that since there are no huge fires or disasters, their marriage is fine. But it's often not.

And on top of all this, the chapter that I thought I wouldn't agree with (entitled Three's a Crowd) was not what I expected at all! It only talks about "affairs" at the very end of that chapter and doesn't ever mention that one should never hang out with the opposite sex.
It does however mention that "intruders" come in many shapes and sizes. Some examples include work, kids, outside hobbies and work, TV, in-laws, church, internet, financial involvement, friends, addictions, and affairs. Not all these things are bad in and of themselves. But they cause problems to the marriage when they take love away from the marriage.

In short, I want to finish the book (I've only read the "Understanding Boundaries" section and the "Three's a Crowd" chapter). I'm excited to see more insights. I will say that it's a bit of a dry, yet deep read. The language isn't pretty and the concepts could prove even more ugly. But I do recommend the book. Especially if you have been shying away from it because you thought it was about putting strict rules on everything or putting your marriage in a box. Here's to constantly working on and protecting our marriages!

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Tuesday, October 25, 2016

Meet the Maugeris: Autumn // Priceless Powwows with Pearson

I have a treat for you today! Back in August, after Betsy and Laura stopped the Guys Behind the Blog linkup, Brita decided to come up with her own questions for a similar series. She asked if anyone was interested in making her "Meet the Flongs" series a link up and I was totally on board. Two months later, she's opened a link up and I'm excited to join her today!

I really like how Brita answers her own questions as well as having Dan answer so that's what I'm going to do too. But her link up is certainly not just for couples. In Brita's words, you could simply answer the questions yourself, or interview your best friend, or beg your parents to share their thoughts.

Also, I'm bringing back Priceless Powwows with Pearson, so stay tuned at the bottom of this post for that!

Lets get to the questions! (Disclaimer: answered these several weeks ago but forgot to ask Pearson until today so I texted them to him at work).

What are your favorite scents of autumn?


Charlene:

Scent? Definitely pumpkin. But my favorite taste is apple.

Pearson:

This may sound basic, but pumpkins. No, wait! Cinnamon :)

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How did your family celebrate Halloween when you were growing up?


Charlene:

Well, we always went trick-or-treating in our neighborhood. Our neighborhood also always had a parade where all the kids in costume paraded around the neighborhood before trick-or-treating started. Sometimes we would go to a fall festival in our town. And sometimes my grandparents would come over for dinner and see us in costume.

Pearson:

Trick-or-treating. My mom would usually make our costumes. It was a fun time.

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Ignoring the calendar, when does it actually feel like autumn where you live?


Charlene:

We used to live in Georgia and it wouldn't really feel like fall till November. In Ohio, it feels like fall pretty early. Except this year.

Pearson:

Around early October. But not this year.

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What foods do you associate with autumn? Bonus: share a recipe!


Charlene:

Pumpkin and apple anything. I have a really simple recipe for an Apple Crumble Cobbler from my grandma:

  • Fresh apples peeled, cored, and sliced
  • 1 cup of self-rising flour
  • 1 cup of sugar
  • 1/2 cup of butter, softened
  • ground cinnamon to taste
  1. Preheat oven to 350°
  2. Mix flour, sugar, butter and cinnamon together in a bowl with a fork.
  3. Put the apples in a greased, glass baking dish. I use a 9x9 but other sizes would probably work fine too.
  4. Pour the flour mixture over the apples.
  5. Bake for 30 to 35 minutes until apples are tender and topping is lightly browned. Let cool before serving.

Pearson:

Anything with pumpkin in it. And apple desserts.

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PRICELESS POWWOWS WITH PEARSON


Back story: We live right across the street from a really nice and new Kroger Market place. There is another Kroger really close to where I work. Also, sometimes Pearson mixes up words with absolutely no explanation.
Me: That's the Kroger I go to on my lunch break sometimes.
Him: It's not as good as our Kroger, is it?
Me: Nope. Not many are.
Him: Yeah, I think we're pretty spoiled when it comes to baking soda.
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Back Story: Pearson was supposed to be opening a bag for me but instead he was spinning around in the kitchen looking for something.
Me: Stop and open the bag!
Him: I'm looking for spoons. I mean scissors.
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Back Story: We were watching "Hamilton's America," the PBS documentary about the making of "Hamilton the Musical." Apparently Lin-Manuel Miranda looks at everybody like he's in love with them or something. But Pearson said this before we saw the above meme.)
Him: Every time I look at the TV, I feel like Lin-Manuel is going to kiss me or something!
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Me: I ate an entire small Jet's pepperoni pizza for lunch. Now I feel terrible.
Him: That was a bad life decision. 10 points taken from Charlene. You are now out of the running for the House Cup.
Me: Bahahaha I love you!
Him: I love you too!
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Him: The inside of my mouth tastes like sapphires.
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Him: I woke up and smelled the candles and then I wanted pumpkin. I'm a basic white girl.
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I hope you enjoyed this as much as I do! Brita's link up will be open for a week and I'd love to read your answers too! Thanks for reading!

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Thursday, October 20, 2016

RocksBox Number 2 (Review & Coupon Code)

I was given a 3 month complementary membership of the Rocksbox subscription service in exchange for review. All opinions are my own.

About a month ago, I shared that I received my first Rocksbox in the mail. I loved everything in that box but didn't purchase anything because I didn't have a budget for it. Well, it's time for another review because I got my second box in the mail the other day!

If you haven't heard about Rocksbox, let me try to explain it a bit. It's a monthly subscription box. You pay $19 per month and they send you three pieces of designer jewelry. You wear the jewelry as long as you want and then send them back and get more.

You could send it all back the day after you get it if you don't like any of the pieces and get three new pieces immediately. Or you can keep them as long as you want. Just remember, you're charged $19 per month. The good news is, if you like a piece that much, you can purchase it!
The first piece in this box was this gorgeous Melanie Auld necklace! The pictures don't do it justice! I'm in love! I'm very tempted to buy it. We'll see if I give into the $89 price tag (originally $105).
The earrings are super cute and I love how well they match the necklace even though they're a totally different brand. Karen London, to be exact. At $42 (regular $50), I probably won't buy these just because I have plenty of cute studs. But, who knows, maybe if I buy the necklace, I'll buy the earrings too.
Now, I'll be honest. The bracelet didn't do anything for me. I don't even know why. It's just not my style for some reason. I think I'm more attracted to bangle type bracelets. Anyway, it is Gorjana brand and $59 (originally $70). And I will definitely not be purchasing it.
So those are my thoughts about what I got in my box this month!

If you want to try Rocksbox, you can sign up at rocksbox.com and use code charlenemaugerixoxo at checkout to get your first month for FREE! There's no obligation. Try it for a month completely free of charge.

So what do you think of my pieces? Would you keep any of these pieces?

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