Enduring All Things: May 2017

Thursday, May 25, 2017

Thankful Thursday: Silly Things

The other day Pearson and I were laying in bed and I was wondering aloud what I should write about for Thankful Thursday this month. I mean I'm thankful for a lot of things this month. As with every month, of course. But this month was really good. But Pearson said "You know what I'm thankful for? The fact that microwaves automatically turn off when you open the door!" So we proceeded to come up with some other silly little things to be thankful for and I decided to publish it because it's fun to be silly sometimes!
  1. Microwaves automatically turn off when you open the door.
  2. Lamp shades aren't really flammable. They aren't, right?
  3. Toilet paper.
  4. Opposable thumbs.
  5. Indoor plumbing
  6. Sliced bread
  7. Coffee stirrers
  8. Handles on coffee mugs
  9. The paper sticking out of a Hershey's kiss. (Easier to open and you get to the chocolate quickly!)
  10. Scented poop bags for cleaning up after Pip
  11. Hair
  12. YouTube
  13. Deodorant
  14. H2O
  15. Forever stamps
  16. George Lucas is no longer involved with Star Wars
  17. Jar Jar isn't in the new Star Wars movies
  18. Finding the PERFECT LuLaRoe print and it's IN YOUR SIZE!
  19. LuLaRoe in general.
  20. Making it through a hard workout and actually feeling good after instead of feeling like you're gonna die!
  21. Waking up before your alarm and realizing you still have an hour left to sleep!
  22. The Ice Bucket Challenge is over
  23. Now you can buy anything online. Even groceries. Hello never leaving the house again!
  24. Sanitary packaging on most products (so people don't sneak poison in them at the store)
  25. Warm socks
  26. Auto-save
  27. Laughing so hard you can't breathe. Especially after an intense ab workout
  28. Caller ID (Is it still called that when it's a cell phone?)
  29. Netflix
  30. Someone invented the wheel
What are some silly things you're thankful for today?
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Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Planks and Specks - Why you can't Change your Spouse

I've always been told that I can't change other people. And I know that to be true. I mean, it just makes sense, right? You can't make other people do anything. You can't change them. God can. God can work on them. Maybe you can change yourself and hope they change as a result. You can pray for them. But you cannot change them.
So then why do I always fall back into the mindset of trying to change Pearson? And please tell me I'm not the only one. Please.

Even if I'm not consciously thinking the words "I really wish he would change the way he does this", I often find myself wondering why in the world he would do something a certain way. Or why he won't do what I want (even when I don't tell him). And if I'm not careful, I may even start to resent him just for being a different person from me!

However, sometimes it's easier to stop trying to change our spouse over the little day-to-day things than it is when it comes to major faults. Sins. Hurts they've caused us. But...
"Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother's eye." -Luke 6:41-42 (ESV)
Here Jesus is calling our own faults planks and our spouse's faults specks because our own issues cloud our judgement. We have to work on ourselves first.

It's not our responsibility to fix our spouse or anybody for that matter. That's God's job. Jesus never called us to fix others. He called us to love them and care for them, but not to fix them.

This applies to our spouse as well. I think your spouse is the hardest person to not try to fix because you know them the best.  You live with them. You do everything with them. The two of you are "one." So you really know their faults, right? But guess what! Jesus doesn't want us to change them either!

When we choose to remove the plank in our own eye first, others are more likely to see Jesus through that than if we just try to change them directly. People don't like being forced to change but often they change with their environment.

When I chose to remove the plank in my own eye, it made all the difference.

When I started to work on my anxiety and depression by making myself go to social events and do things other than sitting on the couch watching TV, he did too. When I started going to therapy, he became more self reflective and started making changes to become a better person. When I started getting serious about my health, he did too (as much as he could while in grad school). When I wanted to connect with him and do fun things together to really work to make our relationship the best it could be, he eventually got on board, stopped staying so late at work and started planning things. When I put forth effort to let him know he's the most important person to me, he did the same!

So maybe you've heard it a million times, "You can't change your spouse!" But maybe you haven't thought about it in the plank/speck context. I know I hadn't until I read Alisa Dilorenzo's book, Called to Love (aff). And to me, this analogy. given by Jesus, makes the concept that much more important. Here's to becoming your best self and focusing on bettering yourself rather than fixing your spouse's flaws!
Have you experienced this in your marriage? Do you ever fall into the trap of trying to fix your spouse? Thanks for reading!

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Monday, May 22, 2017

Date Your Mate Month & a #MaugerisDoOregon Trip Recap

Disclaimer: I recieved Amberly's e-book free of charge as part of her launch team. But I honestly love this book and would have purchased it myself at full price.

Well there's about a week and a half left of "Date Your Mate Month." I love this month and I think dating your spouse is a great thing to celebrate.
As Amberly said at the beginning of the month, dating your mate is more than just going on dates every once in a while. It's about perusing each other. It's about treating each other like you did before you were married, when you were just dating and were all each other thought about!

Of course, going on dates is a big part of that. I mean, that stage of life is literally called "dating." But dates don't have to fit a mold. The word date doesn't always mean getting dressed up and going out somewhere expensive. But it does always mean you need to be intentional, planned, and different from your every day routine.

According to Dictionary.com (and Amberly's e-book, Prioritizing Date Night in your Marriage) a date is defined as “a social appointment or engagement arranged beforehand with another person, especially when a romantic relationship exists or may develop.” Arranged beforehand. That's what makes date night different from every other day of the week or month or year.

So basically, a date could be anything from an at-home movie or game night to an entire weekend getaway.

Pearson and I have enjoyed a few dates this month. The biggest one, of course, would be our weekend trip to Portland, Oregon! On Thursday, when we first got there, we went on a nature walk at a park close to our hotel. This is one of my favorite types of dates because we talk and catch up and connect so well while were on the move and we get to explore and exercise at the same time! After that we just hung out in Hillsboro and went to bed early because Pearson's interview was the next day.
On Friday, after Pearson's interview, we got dinner and then drove about an hour and a half out to the coast. The scenery on the drive through the mountains was gorgeous and we sang, talked, and connected along the way. When we got there, we walked along the beach for a bit. It was very romantic and not to mention a fun new experience we had together. Neither of us had ever touched the Pacific Ocean! Going on both long walks and long drives are great date suggestions in Prioritizing Date Night in your Marriage.
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Saturday was our fun touristy day. We saw the Nike factory and of course stopped by a Guitar Center in Beaverton. Then we took the train into Portland. Our first stop was Washington Park where we walked about two miles of trails (another walking date) and saw the Vietnam War Memorial, the Rose Garden, and more.
When we got downtown, we were forced to get off the train at an earlier stop than we planned because they were doing construction. And it was terrible timing because right as they were making everybody get off the train in a part of town that had nothing but office buildings we couldn't get into, it started pouring. We could barely see a few feet in front of us for all the rain. So that was fun. But it didn't last very long. We spent the rest of the day exploring Portland, sampling good food and wandering around "the largest independent used and new bookstore in the world," Powell's Books.

Dancing in the rain and visiting a bookstore are both in Amberly's e-book so I totally count them as separate dates!

On Sunday we slept in, packed up, checked out of our hotel, and caught our 1:30 pm flight home. Which landed at about 11:00 pm EST. And we were exhausted!
Side Note: Does anybody know what kind of flowers these are? They were EVERYWHERE out there. In several different colors. Both of the pictures above are the same flower (I think). They grow in bunches and look like hydrangeas from a distance, but up close you can tell they're big, individual flowers. I love them and I'm dying to know what they are!
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Some other dates we've been in this month include a YouTube date night, a readathon date night (we're reading Eragon together switching off reading aloud), a food trucks in the park event, and we saw Guardians of the Galaxy volume 2.

You can get Amberly's e-book, Prioritizing Date Night in your Marriage, for only $7.00 through the end of this month. (It goes up to $10 after Date Your Mate month).

In this e-book, you'll get...
  • Research based reasons you should continue to date your spouse after the two of you get married.
  • Benefits that your marriage will enjoy when you make date night a priority.
  • Seven tips and suggestions for making date night happen, no matter what obstacles life brings.
  • Over 200 ideas to keep date night fresh and fun throughout every stage of your marriage (with explanations - not just a bullet point list).
  • Date night ideas to fit any budget, time constraint or other limitations.

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Friday, May 5, 2017

Make Mother's Day Special with The Dating Divas

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Ah Mother's Day. We all love our mothers, don't we? But sometimes it's tough to make Mother's Day as special as she deserves. Moms give everything for their kids. And they wouldn't have it any other way. But when you really think about it, they deserve so much more than just one day of thanks and pampering. The least we can do is make this day special.

Well The Dating Divas have made that easier. Just like they make everything easier!
The Dating Divas Store - products to strengthen your marriage!

One great product they have is this Modern MOMents Journal

This journal is a perfect trip down memory lane for any mom.The Divas teamed up with Alexa at Alexa D Design to make this gorgeous and oh-so-unique gift. You take a normal composition notebook, and then turn it into something spectacular with the help of these amazing printables. My favorite part of this gift is that it keeps on giving! Each and every year, you can add a little bit more to her book to help her re-cap and highlight your year together. How awesome is THAT?! Not only did the Divas take care of my gift this year...they also took care of next year too! (...and the next year...and the next year...and the next year...)

Next is this Beautiful Breakfast in Bed printable pack!

Breakfast in bed is always a staple on Mother's Day, right? What better way to pamper Mom than to serve her from the moment she wakes up? The Divas make the process a little easier and cuter with these precious printables!

Of course there's the Ultimate Mother's Day Printable Pack!

This one includes the room service kit above and so much more! Two Mother's Day cards, a manicure in a jar, coupon book, mother's day banner, an "All About Mom" and an "All About Grandma" booklet, three gorgeous, frame-able quotes, a printable flower bouquet, a t-shirt iron on transfer, and so much more! 

And lastly, The Divas have some awesome FREE Mother's Day printables!

The Divas have an awesome graduation gifts pack! The printable kit includes 3 DIY Graduation Gifts:
  • Graduation Candy Gift Basket -  Choose from tons of clever sayings to create a quick, easy and delicious gift idea for your grad!
  • Surprise Lawn Signs - Take your "Congrats" card to the next level and say it even BIGGER with a sign in the yard!
  • Graduation Letters Binder - This gift is a special surprise and a memorable keepsake for your graduate filled with letters from their closest teachers and peers!
graduation gift printables
I am always amazed at what The Dating Divas come up with. And of course, I love their love and dedication to strengthening marriages one date at a time!

Do you have any of these products? 
Have you used any Dating Divas products? How did you like them? 
Are you ready for Mother's Day?
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