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Friday, December 2, 2016

RocksBox Number 3 (Review & Coupon Card)

I was given a 3 month complementary membership of the Rocksbox subscription service in exchange for review. All opinions are my own.

I received my third RockBox last week. In September, I loved everything I got but didn't keep anything because money. In October, I loved almost everything but didn't keep anything because money. For this box, I absolutely everything. And I might actually buy something!
If you haven't heard about Rocksbox, let me try to explain it a bit. It's a monthly subscription box. You pay $19 per month and they send you three pieces of designer jewelry. You wear the jewelry as long as you want and then send them back and get more.

You could send it all back the day after you get it if you don't like any of the pieces and get three new pieces immediately. Or you can keep them as long as you want. Just remember, you're charged $19 per month. The good news is, if you like a piece that much, you can purchase it!
So in this box, I got two dainty gold necklaces and my stylist suggested I layer them with a layered fall look or over a solid sweater. I loved that idea, but the necklace chains weren't as long as I expected. Also, they slightly different colors of gold. So I wasn't sure I was going to like them worn together, but I do!
I also love the earrings! Sigh. I want to buy it all. But I can't! Christmas, you know?
So those are my thoughts about what I got in my box this month!

If you want to try Rocksbox, you can sign up at rocksbox.com and use code charlenemaugerixoxo at checkout to get your first month for FREE! There's no obligation. Try it for a month completely free of charge.

So what do you think of my pieces? Would you keep any of these pieces?

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Thursday, December 1, 2016

Monthly Goals for December {2016}

Well guys, if you didn't notice, I took more than a month off from the blog and social media. It's been a rough couple months. I've been depressed (though I'm too much of a baby to go get it diagnosed and get help), our marriage has been really struggling, Pearson has been having his own struggles, and the Holidays/business haven't helped as much as I thought they would.

My break was much needed. Not only did I need to get my thoughts together, I also needed to not worry about the blog while I was so busy with traveling and rehearsing for my show. I needed to focus as much as possible on myself and our relationship.

Now, things are far from fixed, but I miss blogging. I think blogging again will help with a lot of things. I love writing and I miss writing. So, I'm starting today, on December 1st, with a monthly goals post. I'm not going to write about my progress from last month because I didn't do anything. I'm starting fresh in the last month of the year and maybe it will help me get a jump start on resolutions for 2017. Oh! And I'm going to start listing my goals via bullet points like Brita. I think just that little change will help me stay on track.

Word of the Year ("present"):

  • Stay organized and ahead with Christmas shopping and blogging so that I can be present in the season.
  • Do something "Christmasy" with Pearson every day. Even if it's just enjoying hot chocolate together in the evening with Christmas music in the background.

Spiritual:

Physical:

  • Drink 80+ ounces of water every day.
  • Get moving at least 4 days per week. (Beach body workouts, Blogilates workouts, walk/jog/run/elliptical for more than 15 minutes. Anything less doesn't count)
  • Limit sweets to one per day, if that.
  • Only eat one plate of food at all Holiday celebrations. No seconds. Period.

Mental (affiliate links):

Marriage:

  • Do all of our Christmas traditions (in addition to our daily "something Christmasy" from above): 
    • Decorate our tree and sleep in the living room under the tree.
    • Bake and decorate cookies.
    • Drive around looking at lights.
    • Go shopping at Easton.
    • Go to Wild Lights at the Columbus Zoo.

Blog:

  • Publish at least 2 posts per week.
  • Share my old Holiday posts on social media.
  • Schedule all blog posts and social media through our vacation before we leave (we will be gone from December 21st through January 2nd visiting Pearson's family, my family, and our friends from college).

Work:

  • Take initiative and look for work when there isn't anything instead of wasting time.
What are your goals for December? If you wrote a post, share the link! Let's be each other's cheerleaders! 

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Thursday, October 27, 2016

Thankful Thursday: Friends (& a Hocking Hills Photo Dump)

Well guys, October is almost over. Did the month seem to go by really fast for anyone else? There just didn't seem to be enough time for everything I wanted to do. If I'm being honest, it's been a bit of a rough month. But I won't get into all that. I'm just looking forward to being busy and being with friends and family for pretty much every weekend the rest of the year.

Speaking of friends, that's what I'm thankful for today!
Last weekend, Pearson and I went to Hocking Hills and stayed in a cabin with several close friends. Eight adults, one toddler, and two babies all under one roof! It was a blast!

This coming weekend, a friend of ours from Harding who was in our wedding is coming to visit. He's interviewing for grad schools and it just works out that he'll be in the area for the weekend and needs a place to stay.

The weekend after that, Pearson will be away at a conference.

The weekend after that, I will be in Nashville with my bff, Ashley for a girls' weekend!

The weekend after that, Pearson and I are going back to Hocking Hills to stay in a cabin as just the two of us.

The weekend after that is Thanksgiving and we'll be in Harrison, Arkansas with my mom's side of the family.

Then comes December. December isn't quite as full as of right now. But, "A Fairy Tale Christmas Carol" runs on the second weekend (I'm playing Cinderella). This means that weekend will be super busy with 4 shows but also, that whole week leading up to the performances will be super crazy with dress rehearsals and tech stuff.

Also, you know, Christmas and New Years. We'll be in three different places in the Atlanta area, as well as Valdosta and Memphis during that week and a half.

So yes, we will be busy. But I am so excited. I've felt a little isolated lately. I think we've sort of isolated ourselves. Or at least I have. I've been depressed and a symptom of that is not every wanting to see anybody or do anything. But now I'm making myself do stuff and I'm actually looking forward to it!

Friends are the greatest. They are so important to our mental health and wellness. God created us humans as relational beings. We need to connect with others. We need to be needed. There's not much of a better feeling than knowing you have friends who have your back.

And it's so good to have fun sometimes, you know? All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, right? Friends help us do that.

So anyway, today for Thankful Thursday, I am so thankful for friends. Old friends. New friends. Lasting friends. Deep friends. All of them!

And now, a photo dump from our Hocking Hills trip!
The boys. And the babies. Can you see Elizabeth on Doug's back?
The Girls.
I had to add another of the boys and babies because Pearson's laughing face cracks me up. Pure joy!
Us inside the Rock House
What are you thankful for this month? Link up below!
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Wednesday, October 26, 2016

What "Boundaries in Marriage" is Really All About

Well guys, it's time for another collaboration with Amberly of A Prioritized Marriage. (You can see our previous monthly collaborations here, here, and here).
This month we decided to read a book and share our thoughts on our own blogs. We picked the book Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.
I honestly thought this book was all about setting up ridiculous boundaries outside your marriage like "I can't go to lunch with just one co-worker of the opposite sex" and I was skeptical of the book. Not that I think we should go out to lunch with one co-worker of the opposite sex all the time, but the thought of putting a hard and fast rule on it was not my cup of tea. Especially back when I wasn't working outside of the home and having that rule would just seem like me controlling Pearson's every move.

But that's not what the book was about at all. In fact, the first chapter explains that the book was written for the purpose of setting boundaries within the marriage so that one partner doesn't dominate the other. That I can certainly get on board with.
Setting personal boundaries means taking responsibility for your own feelings, thoughts, attitude, actions etc. Your spouse isn't causing you to be angry or to nag or lash out. Take responsibility.
The book goes on to talk about being free in God and how we don't have to be controlled by our spouse or anyone. Boundaries help us to know where our spouse's control begins and ends. "Just as your neighbor can't force you to paint your house purple [referring to a property boundaries analogy], neither can any other human being make you do anything." p. 24.

I think the word "boundaries" has a weird, negative connotation. As I read this first chapter, all I could picture was "putting boundaries on the controlling partner." But really the boundaries are on the marriage. The partner who is being controlled needs boundaries on his or her own reactions as well.

And really, we are not setting boundaries "on" another person. Boundaries are about ourselves. I can only control myself. I cannot control my spouse. So if my spouse is doing something I do not like, instead of saying "you cannot do that anymore" I can say "if you continue this behavior, I will do this" and follow through. Sometimes people need consequences in order to see their faults and be motivated to change.

On of my favorite analogies is that boundaries need to be permeable to keep the good in and the bad out. Like a door that you lock to keep out what's unwanted and you open to welcome in friends.

Also, there is an entire chapter about setting boundaries with yourself because we are the only ones we can control and we should remove the plank from our own eye first. Sure sometimes one spouse is more at fault than the other for an issue in marriage but usually the other spouse is contributing in some way whether they realize it or not. So we should take a step back and look at our own feelings and actions first.

Basically, "Boundaries" is a way of looking at your relationship and remembering that you are your own person. Your partner and the relationship don't own you. And yet, you have to become one with this person. You cannot get too comfortable and take each other for granted. Marriage is work and a lot of people (myself included until a few days ago) think that since there are no huge fires or disasters, their marriage is fine. But it's often not.

And on top of all this, the chapter that I thought I wouldn't agree with (entitled Three's a Crowd) was not what I expected at all! It only talks about "affairs" at the very end of that chapter and doesn't ever mention that one should never hang out with the opposite sex.
It does however mention that "intruders" come in many shapes and sizes. Some examples include work, kids, outside hobbies and work, TV, in-laws, church, internet, financial involvement, friends, addictions, and affairs. Not all these things are bad in and of themselves. But they cause problems to the marriage when they take love away from the marriage.

In short, I want to finish the book (I've only read the "Understanding Boundaries" section and the "Three's a Crowd" chapter). I'm excited to see more insights. I will say that it's a bit of a dry, yet deep read. The language isn't pretty and the concepts could prove even more ugly. But I do recommend the book. Especially if you have been shying away from it because you thought it was about putting strict rules on everything or putting your marriage in a box. Here's to constantly working on and protecting our marriages!

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