Enduring All Things: January 2015

Friday, January 30, 2015

How to Love Your Spouse: Gifts

Well folks, it's time for another Love Language post! If you've missed them, the last 3 Fridays I wrote about ways to show love to your spouse through different Love Languages based on Gary Chapman's book. The last three weeks I've talked about Physical Touch, Quality Time, and Words of Affirmation. Today, I bring you ideas to show love to your spouse through Gifts.
  1. Pick a random day and shower him with "just because" gifts throughout the day. Leave his favorite treat by his coat in the morning, send her flowers to work in the afternoon, and give him something special in the evening.
  2. Keep a list of gift ideas. I have a private board on Pinterest and a private gift list on Amazon. Also, make a not of everything he mentions that he likes.
  3. A lot of times, someone who's primary love language is receiving gifts values quantity over quality of a gift. Sure a big elaborate and expensive gift is great, but sometimes a single flower or candy bar on a random day "just because" can have a similar effect because it means you were thinking about them.
  4. If you don't already know, learn his favorite, food, drink, candy bar, color etc. and use that knowledge.
  5. Spoil him for his birthday but make it last the whole week. Give him something every night.
  6. Or give him a gift to open each hour on his birthday.
  7. Make him something small like a homemade card. Be creative and use Pinterest as your guide.
  8. Make him something that takes a little more time and preparation like a something you make in a pottery or painting class.
  9. Bake him cookies with the promise that are all his. You and the kids can't have ANY.
  10. Give a gift of something you can enjoy together. Movie tickets, a vacation getaway, amusement park passes.
Do you have any ideas to show love through gifts?
Thanks for reading and be sure to come back next Friday for ideas to love your spouse through Acts of Service!
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Thursday, January 29, 2015

Thankful Thursday Party - January

Today for Thankful Thursday, I am thankful for God's Grace! You know, we don't deserve Heaven. We don't deserve a savior and a chance to live in Paradise with The Father. We are sinners. We have been cut off from God through our selfish desires and deceit. But God shows us mercy. He forgives just because he loves us. And He shows us Grace. He has given us salvation. 
Vucano Mesaya (Mt. Messiah volcano), Nicaragua
I've done a lot of spiritual thinking (for lack of a better term) lately. This thinking was brought on partially from the She Reads Truth #365DaysOfTruth study and the Gospel of John study. And it's partially because I started reading Muscle and a Shovel by Michael Shank on the plane to Atlanta on Sunday. What I've discovered is that our God is truly awesome. Of course, I knew this before, but it's just very present in my mind right now.

God works in every aspect of our lives. He loves us and only wants what's best for us! "God wants what's best for you so to not want God is to not want what's best for you" -John Luke Robertson. Everything God does and commands us to do is for our own good. He LOVES us! Even if it seems like sin is so much better and more fun here and now, God knows the pain it can bring later.

Anyway, before I get too far off on a tangent, and since I can't put what I'm thinking into words in any way that would do it justice, I'll just say that I'm thankful we have a God who cares, who's present with us always, and who gives us mercy and grace when we mess up. Which is all the time.

What are you thankful for this month? It could be something deep or spiritual or it could be something simple or silly! Be sure to link up below!
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We have so much to be thankful for and a lot of us take that for granted. Lets change that! I bring you the #ThankfulThursdayParty linkup with Charlene @ From Bisons to Buckeyes! We will be writing about what we are thankful for and linking  up on the last Thursday of every month. I would love to have you and can't wait to see what you're thankful for in your life! 

I'm looking for co-hosts! If you're interested please email me at Charlenemarie11@gmail.com.
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Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Blogger Men Tell All {volume 5 - I missed last month}

Well well well. It's time for another Blogger Men Tell All post! I linked up with Samantha in September, October, and November, but I didn't do December and I really missed it. I like these posts a lot and I hope you do to. So here are Pearson's answers. Enjoy!
ONE | What is your favorite memory with your blogger?
Our honeymoon.

TWO | What is her best quality?
There's so many of them I can't decide. If we're going for physical characteristics, then you have really pretty eyes. For not physical probably how you care a lot about everybody even though people sometimes drive you crazy and that's pretty cool.

THREE | What is something the two of you enjoy doing 
together?
Watching Friends and playing with our dog.

FOUR | What is your favorite post of hers that she has ever written?
The one that was about me. Or the numbers ones I like those too. (He's talking about this one about him and the recap-in-numbers ones that I do sometimes)

FIVE | How much time do you think your blogger puts into blogging each week? (and what are you normally up to when she's blogging?)
12 hours a week. I'm normally playing video games or at work.

There you have it! Thanks for reading!
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Monday, January 26, 2015

Ideas for Date Night at Home {& a Giveaway}

Let's face it, dating your husband can be hard. You've either been at work all day or chasing kids and trying to get housework done. All you really want to do on a Friday night is put your pajamas on and veg in front of the TV. I get it! I've been there too. Baby sitters are expensive. You've had a long hard week. The last thing you want to do is get all dressed up to drive somewhere nice, face crowds of strangers, spend money you shouldn't, and tire yourself out even more. And besides, you've been married how long now? It's not like you still need to impress your spouse and take him or her out special, right?

Wrong! It is so so so important to continue to date your husband after you're married, after you have kids, and even years down the road. You never want that spark to die! But, I hear you. It's hard and sometimes doesn't seem worth it. So what do you do? You have a date night in! I know what you're thinking. "Stay home for date night? How boring. What are we just going to watch a movie. That's what we'd be doing anyway." Well I have some ideas to spice up that date night in!
  1. Cook together
  2. Make the whole night a theme. Maybe pick a series and have a marathon. Harry Potter perhaps. Make Butterbeer and try to get through all 7 movies! Or watch a football game with stadium food, hot dogs, soft pretzels etc. Or have a country theme. Have an Italian night with homemade pizza and The Italian Job.
  3. Play board or card games with the kids. After the kids go to bed, continue playing but add a "strip" element to it.
  4. You don't have to dress up, but don't wear your pajamas. Unless that's part of your theme and they're cute or sexy pajamas.
  5. Or make it fancy. Go all out with candles and everything.
  6. Eat outside on the patio for something different.
  7. Have a dance party. Make a playlist on Spotify and just go crazy. Or, I hear Youtube has some ballroom dancing lessons!
  8. Make a fort in the living room. Or if you're not feeling that crazy, have a picnic in the living room
  9. Make breakfast in bed for dinner and have a Netflix marathon.
  10. Workout together.
To help you plan a successful date night at home, I have teamed up with the lovely ladies below to give away a fun Date Night In Package including (1) $15 Redbox Gift Card, $40 in Paypal Cash (for your date night meal), and (1) Battle of the Sexes board game to one lucky winner!

Lauren - Lot 48 // Aubrey - Dreaming About Someday // Charlene - From Bisons to Buckeyes
Rebecca - Rebecca Chapman // Amy - The Charming // Lindsay - The Newlywed Notebook
Amberly - A Prioritized Marriage

This giveaway will run from 12:00 am EST on January 26, 2015 until 11:59 pm EST on January 31, 2015. All entries will be verified, so please be honest when entering. The winner will be notified by e-mail on February 2, 2015 and have 48 hours to claim their prize before a new winner is selected. Good luck!

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Friday, January 23, 2015

How to Love Your Spouse: Words of Affirmation

It's time for the third installment of my Love Language series. If you're new to the series, let me fill you in. I chose the word LEARN as my word of the year for 2015 and learning about my husband is a big part of that. So a few days into 2015, Pearson and I decided to retake the Love Languages Quiz and we found out that both of our primary love languages changed. That just confirmed the fact that There is always something more to learn about your spouse because he or she is always changing!
The fact that Pearson's primary love language was different also told me that I need to learn to love him through all the languages. Thus, I gave you ideas to love your spouse through Physical Touch and Quality Time the last two weeks. And today I five you ideas to love your spouse through words of affirmation.
  1. Write a list of things you like about your spouse. Then make a point to say them out loud to him out of the blue with no prompting. Some on my list include how brilliant he is, how appreciative he is, how much he loves and cares for me, and how attractive I find him.
  2. Tell him you're glad you married him. Remind him often.
  3. Put yourself in his shoes and be kind. Maybe you're having an argument and you know you're right, but just take a minute to try to look at the situation from his perspective.
  4. Tell him you're proud of him.
  5. Encourage him where he's insecure. Learn what he's insecure about and encourage him to do those things and tell him he's doing great and you appreciate his efforts!
  6. Tell you appreciate him. 
  7. Tell him thank you for everything he does. Or maybe don't even have a specific reason. Just "thank you for being you."
  8. Tell him you love it when he does... You could make a list of these too.
  9. When he dresses up to go out or to head to church, tell him how nice he looks.
  10. Be humble. If you want him to do something ask as an equal, don't demand like his mother.
  11. Complement him in public.
  12. Talk him up to your friends. Don't ever talk negative about him behind his back. I always try to leave the negative stuff to just between us.
  13. Write him a love letter. Maybe even mail it to his office or to your own apartment.
  14. Leave cute, affirming sticky notes where he can find them. Brooklyn has a great list of things to write!
  15. Tell him you're his biggest fan and mean it. Root for him in whatever he's doing. Don't ever be against him in life. If he wants to do something, support it. If it's not something you think he should pursue, kindly express your concerns but then support his decision.
Well that about does it. This love language has always been the hardest for me to communicate with but I'm learning!
What would you add to my list?
Thanks for reading and be sure to come back next week for ideas to love your spouse through Gifts!
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Thursday, January 22, 2015

Inspiration of the Month: Taylor Swift

I've really been inspired by Taylor Swift this month. She's not an outspoken Christian like most people I find inspirational (Sadie, Mia, Candace, Carrie, The Duggars - you get the idea), but as far as celebrities go, she's pretty inspirational.
Did you know she gave a bunch of her fans Christmas presents? I don't mean that her agent sent out some Taylor paraphernalia to the first 100 people to sign up. I mean that Taylor herself did some social media stalking (or "Tay-lurking" as she called it) and picked some fans to go shopping for. She picked out items she thought they would like and sent them along with hand-written letters. Watch this video and be wonder stuck! (see what I did there?)
Pretty cool, huh? I ask you... what other celebrity do you know who would do that? Not many!

She also held several "1989 Secret Sessions" at her various homes across the globe where fans came over, took pictures, ate her home-made cookies, and listened to 1989 before it came out! How cool is that? Side Note: I'm a pretty big Taylor fan. How do you get picked for these things?

She never cusses in her music. She may use the Lord's name in vain and say some other things that I don't agree with as a Christian, but she really tries hard to live by her own high standard. She knows the kind of influence she has over young girls and she doesn't take that lightly.
Taylor is so very humble. She is always so genuinely thankful for her fans and she always seems shocked with every award she wins. She is always talking about how she got lucky with her music and she's really no different than anyone else. Her music even reflects this. She writes from her own experience, but everyone can relate to it. I've even seen her write to fans on social media to try and help them with their struggles! In fact, she comments on Instagram a lot! (again, where's my comment, Taylor? lol)

Last but not least, Taylor doesn't let the haters bother her. People say a lot of things about her. Tabloids lie and people speculate, but she doesn't feed the gossip. She just shakes it off and maybe uses it for inspiration for her next hit song!

What do you think? Are you a Taylor fan? What else has she done that inspires you?
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Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Letters to the World {January 2015}

Alright ladies and gents! It's time for the first Letters to the World post of 2015! I really enjoy doing these posts so I decided to keep them going in the new year even though I'm changing some other things. But I was wondering, would anybody be interested in making this a monthly link up? Let me know in the comments if you would be interested in linking up.
Dear Brain,
Why have you been going crazy at night lately? I used to have this problem in high school, but I've taken pride in the fact that I haven't really had insomnia in a long time. Sure there may be a single night here or there where I have trouble getting to sleep, but lately it's been every night. And I don't like it. Why do I have so much trouble falling asleep at night and waking up in the morning? I don't like it.

Dear Junk Food,
Why do you taste so good?? I know, deep down in my... brain, that you are not worth it. But sometimes my heart just keeps telling me to eat you anyway. Ugh. The struggle is real.

Dear Weather,
Um, are you aware that this is January in Ohio? I mean this weekend the temps were practically in the 50s during the day. And what did I do? Stayed inside being lazy. But that's a story for another time. Anyway, I am not complaining in the slightest and I am sure I am going to regret saying all this because you're probably going to come back in a couple days and put me in my place. Oh well.

Dear Grocery Shopping,
I hate you. But I'm pretty sure you know this and probably feel the same way about me. I put you off till the very last second. I finally caved and went to Kroger yesterday for the first time in 2 weeks and it really wasn't so bad. Maybe I should remember that next time I'm digging in the pantry for food.

Dear 2015,
I've been rocking you so far. And you haven't been so bad in return. I've kept up with all of my goals only struggling a little this past weekend. And you have brought me a pretty great birthday, a wonderful Broadway in Columbus show and some great TV (Galavant & Agent Carter) and Netflix (FRIENDS). I like what we have going here. Lets keep it up and make this the best year yet!

Dear She Reads Truth,
I love your studies! I love how well structured your program is and how convenient your app is. I love the Truth you bring and the beautiful package it comes in that makes me want to study the Bible even more. I love the community you've become for me. And I love your (the founders) hearts. Thanks for making it your priority to help the Bible become our priority.

Dear Blogging,
I love you. I love how you've introduced me to so many wonderful people. I love that I am part of a wonderful community. I love all the groups dedicated to helping each other out like The Peony Project, The Meaningful Marriage Book Study, and The Prayerful Bloggers Community. I love that you give me something to do and be proud of. And I love helping others through my words. I'm so glad I discovered you and have kept with you all this time! I see no end in sight.

What would you write to the world today? And let me know if you'd be interested in a Letters to the World linkup.
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Friday, January 16, 2015

How to Love Your Spouse: Quality Time

Since my word for 2015 is LEARN, Pearson and I took the 5 Love Languages quiz again. What I learned was that Pearson's love languages have changed yet again and that people's love languages change all the time. So I want to learn how to love Pearson through all the love languages. Last week I shared ideas to show love through Physical Touch and today I bring you ideas to show love through Quality Time.
Pearson about to "tackle" me (aka pull my flag) in flag football!
  1. Go on a long walk with a topic in mind to discuss like your childhood.
  2. Ride bikes through a park
  3. Spend a weekend away together
  4. Talk at dinner every night with no cell phones or other distractions
  5. Open up to your spouse- if your spouse's primary love language is quality time, then quality conversation is most likely part of it. And quality conversation involves giving and receiving. If you don't open up to your spouse and tell him or her about yourself and your feelings, his love tank will never be full.
  6. Play board games or card games together. Friendly competition can be good.
  7. Sit on the patio or on a bench at the park with no distractions besides nature and just talk. Pearson and I used to do this in college all the time on the infamous Harding Swings and I sort of miss it.
  8. Play a sport or exercise together
  9. Meet for lunch in the middle of both of your busy schedules
  10. Camp out in the living room. You could even go all out and make a fort. Talk about bonding time.
If your spouse's primary love language is quality time, ask him or her what they would like to do with you. The easiest way to learn is to ask. And don't just find time for your marriage, make time! Your marriage should be the very top thing on your priorities list. Schedule time for your spouse and schedule everything else around it. Do NOT do things the other way around.

Do you have any ideas to show love through Quality Time?
Thanks for reading and be sure to come back next Friday for ideas to love your spouse through Words of Affirmation!
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Thursday, January 15, 2015

I Waited Until My Wedding Night and I'm Glad!

I'm a member of a wonderful group of married bloggers who are committed to their marriage and want to help each other strengthen their relationships with their husbands. Every quarter, we read and discuss a book about marriage and in between the book reading, we sometimes talk about marriage related articles and blog posts. A couple months ago, one of the members shared this article. She didn't write it, she just found it and shared it with us wondering what we all thought about it. Well, I have a few thoughts about it. And I don't want to bash the author or disrespect her in any way. I just don't agree with her and I thought I'd share on here because, after all, this is my blog and I can write what I want, right?
Anyway, if you clicked on the link, then you know the article is titled "I waited until my wedding night to lose my virginity and I wish I hadn't." Wait, what? Have you ever met anyone who waited and regretted it?? I sure haven't!

The first point Jane makes is that when she was ten years old, she took a pledge at church to stay pure till marriage. She says ten was too young for this. I agree with her here. I didn't have "the talk" with my parents until I was about to have "the talk" (aka video about periods) at school. That was 5th grade. I was either 10 or 11. I think that may have been a good time to talk about sex at some level because some people hit puberty at about that time. But I don't think her church should have had her take a pledge about staying a virgin until marriage. Maybe that would be more appropriate in a junior high or high school class, but definitely not in 4th grade.

The next point she makes is that the church taught her that "sex was for married people. Extramarital sex was sinful and dirty and I would go to Hell if I did it." Well, yes. Sex outside of marriage is a sin. Plain and simple. If you don't believe me, read Acts 15:20, 1 Corinthians 6:13 & 18, and lots of other scriptures. If you're not sure that two unmarried people having sex is considered sexual immorality, read 1 Corinthians 7:2.

However, if her church really worded things this way saying she would "go to Hell" if she had sex before marriage, I'm not so sure that was the right way to go about things. There is such a thing as repentance and forgiveness. We even have an example of Jesus forgiving a woman for doing this very sin while he was here on earth! (John 8:2-11). Frankly, I think the church leaders were just trying (and probably succeeding) to scar the young girls into staying pure.

What Jane says next in the article breaks my heart. She was taught in her church that as a girl, she had the responsibility to stay pure for her future husband but that boys did not have that same responsibility. Wait, what? Could someone please show me where this is presented in the Bible? Both men and women are commanded to abstain from sexual immorality. I honestly have no idea where Jane's church came up with this. If you have a clue where they might have gotten this idea, please share! I was taught that sex outside of marriage was bad and it was important for me to stay pure but it was also important to find a boyfriend and possible future husband who would stay pure till marriage as well.

Jane's language for the next couple paragraphs is pretty strong. She was told that if she didn't remain pure, her marriage would "fall apart and end in tragic divorce." Well, maybe statistically people who have sex before marriage end up divorced more often that people who don't. And yes God doesn't like sexual immorality. It's a sin. But tragic divorce isn't a consequence that God rains down on everybody who commits adultery.
The last day of our honeymoon in The Bahamas right before leaving for the airport.
After that, she talks about how her pledge to remain pure was so public and so admirable. Everybody knew she was a virgin. She was proud of that. You know what, my virginity was no secret either. But I didn't consider it a huge accomplishment. I mean sure it may be more and more difficult to stay pure in our society these days, but I was simply following the Lords commandments to the best of my ability. I was not placed on a pedestal of any sort nor did I think I should have been.

Jane talks about coming back from her honeymoon and not wanting to look anyone in the eye because they knew she wasn't a virgin anymore. Well, me too. And I didn't care. Nothing changed. Yeah when I thought about it too hard, it was a little awkward with certain people like maybe my parents. And yes some of my friends made jokes (and they decorated our car with no inhibitions). But it wasn't a big deal.
The worst part of this whole thing to me is the fact that she felt dirty after having sex with her husband. She felt soiled and tarnished and not special anymore. This is completely unscriptural. Sex within marriage is beautiful. It's not dirty. And she was certainly just as special as she was before. Maybe even more so in some ways because she had become one with her husband in the way God intended!

Jane felt dirty and tarnished because of the way her church leaders taught (or at least the way she perceived) that sex is bad. That aspect was emphasized and not enough was said about how wonderful and beautiful sex can be with your spouse. I was very fortunate to grow up in a church and a family that never hid the fact that sex was blessed by God. As I got older, I had teachers and mentors in college who reiterated that fact. Pearson and I kept an open dialog about sex and abstinence while we dated. And when got engaged, we read books by Christian authors about which allowed for more dialog and comfort on the topic.

Sex is a beautiful thing. God made it that way. But he only meant for it to be shared between two people in the most intimate and sacred relationship of marriage. I truly believe this is for our own good. Sleeping around or even sleeping with just one person before the commitment of marriage is in place can cause a lot of pain and heartache.

I can see where Jane was coming from and how it wasn't all her fault that she felt the way she did about sex. But I do not believe the answer was for her to leave her faith and encourage others to do whatever they want with their sexuality. I think the answer is to teach young men and women that sex is absolutely beautiful and wonderful if done the way God wants it.

I want to know your thoughts! And if you have any questions about anything I've said or why I believe anything here, please don't hesitate to ask!
Thanks for reading!
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Tuesday, January 13, 2015

My Top 10 Favorite Harry Potter Quotes

I am a Potterhead. Did you know that? In fact, you could say I'm a BIG Potterhead. The other day, I was reflecting on good old Harry and I realized that I've only really talked about it on this blog when I went to Harry Potter world in October, and when I joined a one-time only Harry Potter linkup.

So I thought I'd do a fun little post today and give you my top 10 favorite quotes from the series. After all, we've all learned a lot from the wisdom of these characters, haven't we?
The Harry Potter shelf on our new book case. Complete with our wands I got from Harry Potter World.
Here they are in no particular order:

"It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to your enemies, but a great deal more to stand up to your friends."

"It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities"

"Don't pity the dead. Pity the living and above all, those who live without love."

"Of course it's happening inside you head, Harry. But why on Earth would that make it not real?"

"We've all got both light and darkness inside us. What matters is the part we choose to act on. That's who we really are."

"Happiness can be found, even in the darkest if times, if one only remembers to turn on the light."

"Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, the most inexhaustible form of magic we have, capable of both inflicting injury and remedying it."

"If you want to know what a man's like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals."

"I solemnly swear that I am up to no good."

"I'm going to bed before either of you come up with another clever idea to get us killed - or worse... Expelled!!!"

What are your favorite quotes from the Harry Potter series?
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Monday, January 12, 2015

My 25th Birthday Weekend

This year I've decided I want to share more of my life on the blog. I started this blog originally to share my life with family and friends I don't see on a regular basis because we moved so far away, but I got away from that because I started writing for my readers. It's a fairly well-known fact in the blogging world that "recap" posts just aren't that popular. They aren't as fun and exciting and helpful as say a DIY tutorial, a yummy, yet healthy recipe, or tips for whatever problem you might be having. But I want to get back to writing for myself and my family and friends. I don't mean the blog will be one big recap of my life. I still want to share my knowledge, tips, and unsolicited advice on marriage with you guys, but I also want to record exciting - and maybe not so exciting - things that happen in my life for my own sake, if for no other reason.

Anyway, with that said, I'd like to recap my birthday weekend today.
I always seem to forget about my birthday until right before because it's only a week after New Year's Day. It sneaks up on me in all the hustle and bustle of the holidays. This year was no different. However, 3 packages came to our door the week leading up to my the big day which reminded me very much that my birthday was coming up. It was very hard not to peak.

I also got a package from my in-laws the day before complete with a long, hand written note from my father-in-law (Pop) which had me bawling. I mean I was ugly crying! Let me just tell you, I have the best father-in-law on the planet. He is the sweetest, most thoughtful and loving man and I am oh so lucky to that his son fell in love with me because he takes after his father.

On Wednesday, Pearson and I stayed up till midnight talking just so he could be sure to be the first to tell me "Happy Birthday" on my birthday.

On my actual birthday (Thursday), I literally kept my pajamas on all day. Ok, that's not true. I put on some workout clothes and did Blogilates on my lunch break. But then I showered and put my pajamas right back on. Besides work, I blogged. I read blogs. We watched Agent Carter, Gilmore Girls and Friends. I did some online shopping. And I heated up leftovers for dinner. It was absolutely wonderful!

I got 4 cards in the mail.
105 people told me "Happy Birthday" on Facebook.
3 people told me on LinkedIn.
11 people texted me.
I felt so very loved.
The shirt says "The Peach State: beautiful mountain & beaches. The deep south where tea is sweet, accents are sweeter, pearls and flip flops are staples, long peach farm fields, wide front porches, friendly folks, and people with good manners. The days are warm and faith is strong. Every conversation starts with y'all and ends with blessing hearts. It's a place that will get in your blood and call you back wherever you go...
As far as physical gifts go, I got a Marauder's Map phone case, a Target gift card and a cute Southern Comforts shirt among other wonderful things.

On Friday, Pearson and I went to The Cheesecake Factory to celebrate. He told our waiter that it was my birthday so they decorated my cheesecake all special and sang to me when they brought it out. Then we decided to go see Night at the Museum: Secret if the Tomb and I definitely cried when Robin Williams said goodbye. I won't tell you who he said goodbye to so I hope I'm not spoiling to much.
On Saturday, Pearson had to work. Sad day. But I slept in and them met him for lunch. After lunch I went to target and spent my gift card. We ate Cheesecake Factory leftovers for dinner and watched about 10 episodes of Friends.

Sunday was the most productive day I've had in a while. When we got home from church, we cleaned the whole apartment and took down all of our Christmas decorations. (We've started a tradition where we don't take it down till after my birthday). But we didn't stop there. We re-arranged our living room. We finally got rid of our huge, broken, in the way recliner. We bought and put together a bookshelf from Target. We filled that bookshelf with books and other various items. I feel so refreshed with the changes.

All in all, I'd say it was a pretty great birthday! If you've made it this far, thank you so much!
How was your weekend?
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Friday, January 9, 2015

How to Love Your Spouse: Physical Touch

Since my word for this year is LEARN, I decided it was time for Pearson and I to retake the Love Language Quiz to help me learn how best to love him. If you don't know, The 5 Love Languages is a book by Gary Chapman which breaks down love into 5 different languages. He says that a husband and wife can both be speaking love to each other in the best way they know how, but neither of them feel loved because they are speaking different languages. The quiz helps identify what love language both you and your spouse speak
Anyway, Pearson and I both took the quiz when we were dating. Then, we took it again in our first year of marriage. We took it for a third time a couple nights ago. Each time, we each got different results.

That's just one reason why we should learn how to love our spouse through ALL the love languages, not just his or her primary language - or the language we think is his or her primary one. This is also a good reason to constantly be learning about our spouse by paying attention to how they respond to ways we show love and how they show love to us. Our love languages are constantly evolving so our actions should evolve with them.

Please take the quiz. You may be surprised by your spouse's primary language. And who knows? You may even surprise yourself!

Anyway, I thought I'd share some ideas I've come up with to help show your love to your spouse based on each of the 5 love languages. I'll start with Physical Touch since that is Pearson's primary language and has been every time he's taken the quiz.
Let me start by saying that the "physical touch" Gary talks about in the book is non-sexual. Sexual physical touch is another whole topic.

So here are ten ideas to show love to your spouse through Non-Sexual Physical Touch:
  1. Greet him at the door and give him a big ol' hug and kiss when he gets home from work!
  2. Always kiss goodbye and goodnight.
  3. Kiss in the middle of the afternoon for no reason.
  4. Randomly walk up to him and put your arms around him, telling him how he means so much to you.
  5. Always hold hands! In church, in the car, at the movies, at dinner, while walking around the mall. The list goes on.
  6. Play footsie at dinner.
  7. Cuddle on the couch in the evenings.
  8. Scratch his back.
  9. Massage his back and feet.
  10. Put an arm through his arm (or around her shoulders if you're a guy) in public.
Do you have any ideas to show love through physical touch?
Thanks for reading and be sure to come back next Friday for ideas to love your spouse through Quality Time.
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Thursday, January 8, 2015

25 Things I Haven't Learned in 25 Years

Well folks, today is my 25th birthday. 25. Honestly, I can't really believe I'm 25. A quarter of a century. This is the last big birthday for a while. And it is the last exciting birthday period. And what's so exciting about it? Well, my car insurance rate goes down and in most online surveys I get to move up a level to the 25-30 age range. Yay! But in all seriousness, I am so thankful for another year of life. 24 was pretty great. No complaints. Here's to making 25 even better! I want to celebrate my birthday in 2 ways on the blog today. And by that I mean YOU get to celebrate!
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And secondly, I bring you 25 things I HAVEN'T learned in 25 years! I got this idea from Helene almost a year ago and loved it so much that I've kept it stashed away in my mind. And how perfect is it that my word for 2015 is LEARN??

  1. How to take something off the shelf in the shower without everything else falling.
  2. How to cook dinner every night.
  3. Not to bring coffee to church despite how many times I've spilled it in the auditorium.
  4. To stop caring so much about what other people think of me.
  5. To trust God with my life and not get anxious when something comes up. But I'm really working on this.
  6. Why God loved the world so much that he sent His Son to die for us.
  7. Not to go to the post office on my lunch break because it will take longer than the hour I get for lunch.
  8. To cut back on coffee.
  9. To do the dishes right after dinner.
  10. How to love all people unconditionally as Christ did. But I'm trying.
  11. The love of a mother for her child. But I hope to learn this one day.
  12. To go to bed early.
  13. How to get out of bed when my alarm first goes off.
  14. To eat breakfast when I first wake up. It slips my mind until I'm hungry a few hours later.
  15. How to split up holiday time with my family and my in-laws.
  16. How to not worry so much about that last one.
  17. How to make soup on the stove top without burning it. But I'm a pro at crock-pot soup!
  18. How to be funny and friendly without being or saying something awkward.
  19. Almost anything outside my field of study.
  20. Most things inside my field of study.
  21. To appreciate foreign films and other stupid ones that always win a bunch of Oscars.
  22. To face big spiders like the ones in Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings. I always close my eyes for the whole scene.
  23. How to truly express to Pearson how much I love him.
  24. To do the laundry before it gets piled up really high.
  25. How to keep my eyes from leaking when I need to cry. How do some people keep from ugly crying in public so well?
Some of these are a little embarrassing, I must admit. But I think some of them I'll never learn and not many other people ever do either.
What things have you not learned yet?
Thanks for reading!
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Tuesday, January 6, 2015

#MaugeriHolidayRoadtrip Recapped in Numbers

You guys! Pearson and I finally got home on Saturday from our 2 week road trip! If you follow me on Instagram or Twitter, I hope you enjoyed my pictures throughout the trip. Oh my goodness. It was a fantastic time with lots of wonderful people. We made tons of memories and replenished so many relationships. But I was so ready to be home and sleep in my own bed. Tell me you feel that way too, right? Anyway, I thought I'd give you a little recap today in numbers!
  • 35: number of hours spent driving
  • 5: number of houses in which we stayed
  • 23: number of gifts we gave
  • 7: number of pies consumed (not just by us)
  • 6: number of movies watched
  • 9: number of football games watched
  • 11: number of Friends episodes watched
  • 4: number of times pip got sick in the car
  • 3: number of friends from Harding that we saw
  • 17: number of people at Memaw's house for Christmas on Thursday
  • 24: number of people at Grandma's house for Christmas on Saturday
  • 4: number of dogs at Grandma's house for Christmas on Saturday
  • 5: number of doggy friends that Pip made
  • ∞: number of hugs received and given
How was your holiday vacation?
Thanks for reading!
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Monday, January 5, 2015

Learning About My Husband - Marriage & Relationship Goals {link up}

Welcome to the re-launch of the Marriage and Relationship Goals linkup for 2015. As I said last week, my word for this year is LEARN. I want to try to incorporate that word in every aspect of my life. For my marriage, I want to learn about my husband. 
My goal for my marriage this month is to listen to Pearson without interrupting him. I will put technology away in the evenings and give him my undivided attention. We will sit down to dinner and tell each other about our days. We will go on long walks (yes even though it's Winter. It helps with cabin fever) and talk about our jobs, our dreams, our future, our past and anything in between. 
I also want to learn about my husband emotionally. We are going to re-take the Love Language Quiz in the next few days because people's love languages change. Once we do that and I know Pearson's primary and secondary love languages, I will study how he gives and receives love and learn his love dialects.
I know a lot about my husband having been with him for eight and a half years, but there is always more to learn! I want to learn everything I can about him and I will remember it.

What goals do you have for your marriage this month? Did you pick a word for 2015? Are you incorporating that word in your marriage? Be sure to link up below!
Marriage & Relationship Goals




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Friday, January 2, 2015

What I'm Up To {January 2015}

You guys! Can you believe it's January... 2015?!?! Where did 2014 go? It's gonna be a great month and a great year! So let's see what I'm up to this month!
Making: Stuffed burlap "wreaths." My BFF gave me this one for Christmas and showed me how to make them so now I want to make one for every season holiday.
Cooking: Healthy meals. And crock pot meals. One of my new year's resolutions is to eat healthy and that means not eating out very much.
Clicking: Healthy recipes on Pinterest
Drinking: Water. And lots of it.
Reading: Bridge to Haven still. Also, the whole Bible in one year, other She Reads Truth Studies, The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional, and blog posts.
Wanting: Not much really. I got plenty f "stuff" for Christmas.
Looking: A little pudgier after the holidays. But I'm already working to fix that.
Playing: Trivia Crack!!! Challenge me!
Wishing: Death wasn't a reality of our world.
Enjoying: The last few days of our Holiday Roadtrip.
Waiting: For my Birthday
Liking: All the new clothes and other things I got for Christmas
Wondering: How everybody's holidays were! Let me know in the comments!
Loving: The time we've spent with family and friends on this trip!
Hoping: We can easily get back on track with work and real life when we get home.
Needing: Some time to myself to re-coup
Smelling: Ashley's lovely candles around the house.
Wearing: My new pajamas, sweaters, and boots I got for Christmas
Following: The #365DaysOfTruth study on She Reads Truth!
Noticing: How much more mild this winter has been so far compared to last year *knocks on wood*
Knowing: This year is going to be the best yet!
Thinking: I can keep on track with all my resolutions this year!
Feeling: Confident in the above!
Giggling: At Pip playing with his cousin, Gunner!
Watching: Friends on Netflix!!!!!
Listening to: The Into the Woods movie soundtrack
Obsessing over: Ohio State and Oregon in the National Championship!!!
Shopping for: Pearson's Valentine's and Birthday presents. I like getting a head start. :)
Learning: Everything I can about everything I can. (Learn is my word of the year)
Eating: Healthy foods and less of everything.
Wasting time on: All social media
Praying for: The Schmizze family and our church family who suddenly and unexpectedly lost 2 elders in 5 weeks.
Working on: Myself, my resolutions, and learning.
Looking forward to: My birthday in less than a week!

What are you up to this month?
Thanks for reading!
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Thursday, January 1, 2015

My New Years Resolutions

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!
January first. A day to start over. Of course, you could "start over" any day of the year, but for some reason it just seems easier on the first of the year, doesn't it? This year, I want to start over and make spiritual goals, physical goals, and mental goals.

Spiritual:
I am going to read through the entire Bible with the free #SheReadsTruth #365DaysofTruth. I'm also going to add some other #SheReadsTruth studies to my daily reading. She Reads Truth is so convenient, fun and a wonderful community of women!
Pearson and I are going to read through the One Year Love Language Minute Devotional by Gary Chapman.

Physical:
I want to loose weight but on top of that, I want to be healthy and feel better. I want to feel better and more healthy physically, but I also want to feel better about myself.

My goal for this year is not a number of pounds or inches to lose but to stay under my daily caloric goal (1500), don't drink any soda, and to do something active at least 6 days per week. I will be doing cardio (running, elyptical, swimming in the summer) and strength (Pilates, yoga, and weight training).

I will go to bed early, wake up early, drink lots of water, and just have make my health a priority. It's a lifestyle change and Pearson and I are doing it together.

Mental:
As I talked about on Monday, this year will be a year of learning. I will learn all I can about the people as well as the things in my life.

I will read at least 15 books. That's 1.25 per month. Easy. And at least five of those will be non fiction.

What are your New Years resolutions? Share with me in the comments and let's keep each other accountable!
Thanks for reading!
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